Now, let’s be honest.
Where are all the humans? Where are all the people that actually bleed when hurt, or cry when someone dies, or better yet, react emotionally when being spoken to? Is it completely absurd to create a kind of notion that it’s okay to become vulnerable beyond yourself?
Recently, I’ve fallen in love with the book Emotional Bullshit, written by Dr. Alasko. The book, if you want to call it by such a name, was given to me by my best friend and for once in our 8 years of friendship and love, I’ve stopped several times to thank him in countless ways. Within its pages, it tackles not only the interpersonal relationship with your respective partners and friendships, but also those deeply centered (and often ignored) conversations with ourselves. More importantly, the book looks into the realities behind what Dr. Alasko’s has coined as the “Toxic Trio” . Within this Toxic Trio, Dr. Alasko has brought denial, delusion, and blame out of the closet and into the courtroom. For once in my life, I was able to understand my own relationship with myself beyond myself. For once, I was able to address those human traits that drew me to myself years prior to this person who only exists today.
Yes, only existing.
The book also centers around the premise behind our core needs that we have individually or collectively. He identifies that those core needs ought to be cultivated throughout our entire lives, but more importantly, we should create a system of sharing those wonderful core needs with the people who love and care for us. In defining our core needs, or those needs that advance your long-term interests, develop your character beyond reproach, or realize your deepest potential, we align ourselves with our partners and friendships in such a way that not only enables the joy within your relationship to flourish, but the disarmament of denial, delusion, and blame begin to allow you to breathe freely.
I wouldn’t want to make this a complete review for this book, although I think a million more writers should exploit the true wealth of this book, but my last words I will say is what Dr. Carl Alasko mentioned.
“Show others how to better experience what they already know…”
I’m almost there Carl…I’m almost there.